Is it normal that I don't want visitors?

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I started thinking about hospital visitors before I was even pregnant, and I'm still in the mode that I really don't want any visitors during labor, and depending on how things go/time of day, maybe not until the next morning. 
My husband is the only person I want there for the delivery or immediately after, and that is more for my support NOT to see anything. He is working about 3 hours away right now, and depending on when and how quickly things happen we know that there is a chance he may not make it, and though we hope that don't happen, if it does then I don't want anyone there. 
I am close with my family and in laws, though this is just something that I feel is very private, and while I can't wait for them to meet our son, I just feel like having visitors before would be more like being on display, and that's just not something that I'm comfortable with. 
Am I the odd ball or has anyone else felt the same?

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I have told everyone “my husband got me into this and he’s gonna be the one to get me out of it!”

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If that is how you feel it's how u feel don't let anyone make u feel rude. I felt that way my entire last pregnancy and my husband and mum convinced me I was being rude and I caved had my son at 930Am on a Saturday and within 20 mins my inlaws and husbands entire family was in my room where they camped out all day I was very upset. I spent the first few weeks after extremely upset with them and my husband for not asking them to give us some rest and bonding time . This time I will be making sure the nurses know ahead of time I would like some time
With our son alone and limit visitors to 30-40 mins so we can rest and not have a zillion people in our room the whole time
We are there. No one meant any harm everyone was just excited to meetour son but it defiantly was to much for me and I was uncomfortable. Your the one having the baby and you need to do what you are comfortable with and if ur feelings change and u want more visitors you can always change your mind.

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I’m not allowing any visitors during labor, and probably not until the next day. 
With my first I requested that nobody visit during labor and nobody listened. So this time I’m telling the hospital not to let anybody in.

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I am a FTM and didn't know what to expect but we just went thru L&D three weeks ago. We are far from family but chose not to have anyone come for birth. While there was a moment I wanted my mom it really brought hubby and I closer to have no one but each othe to depend on. It was really special. We did have a doula for support but she was not obtrusive. AND there were so many docs and nurses in the room that I couldn't imagine having family in there too- so crowded! And the bonding time between just the three of us following delivery for the two days in the hospital was also really precious time. It was empowering to make decisions for our daughter wo family input/advice. Go with your gut. Everyone has different needs.  :) best wishes!!

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No you're definitely not. I have already told my SO that I only want him and my mother (as back up) in the room with me. It's a big and private time.in your life it's your choice and you shouldn't feel ashamed or odd for wanting the privacy.  You're not a animal in a soon to be put on display! I told the SO the only people I want is him and my mom then I want my full hour of just us two righy after birth. IF I feel up to it depending on the time.of day too then we can start having visitors and still on close family. everyone else can visit in increments once I'm home and i.dont want anyone who hasn't gotten their shots kissing and breathing on my baby. It's your body it's our baby and you're the one who gets to be who control of this situation is what my SO told me. So No you're not an odd ball I'm righ2y there with you !

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You are not the odd ball. The only person that will be there for me is my husband. Also at my hospital there are at least two hours after birth that is only the 3 of you. They do skin to skin, encourage a feeding, then do the baby’s weight and length and all then you get another hour before they think about moving you from your L&D; room to the mother baby wing. That’s also when they want you to move a little bit and start to feel normal especially if you had an epidural. I don’t plan on telling anyone when I go into labor or that the baby has been born till after those few hours.

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I feel the same way. I just want to nest and spend time alone with my husband in the last few weeks before baby comes, and after the baby is arrives I only want my husband and mother around for a few weeks, at least. I'm craving privacy and quiet, just so we can bond with our baby.

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I'm having a planned c section so no one other than my husband will be allowed in the OR as far as afterwards I told my husband he can call immediate family once we are settled into our postpartum room which will be several hours after delivery. Everyone else can visit once we get home.

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Learned my lesson after my first. My husband only in the delivery room, and family can visit at home for brief stays next month. Need time to adjust to new baby, and my new family is not about everyone else.

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Nope! Not weird. My husband was the only one with me. Babe was born at 11:58 pm so we didn't have anyone visit until the next night. He did a great job of keeping everyone in the loop and planning it so, when they came, they all came at once. That was nice because you're constantly being checked by nurses, doing vitals, babe is in and out for tests. It's tough to have a block of time for visitors anyway.

Is it normal that I don't want visitors?

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