Am I wrong?

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I'm not full on throwing a fit before I get into this. It just irks me and I'm not sure if I'm right to be upset.
My husband and I don't get out. Between work, kids, and being in a rough spot financially, it's been way too long since we've gone out. Like, December of last year.
So my husband wins tickets to a nice dinner through his workplace. Not full on formal, but still nice. It starts at 4:30, we've got babysitters booked, and then we find out his side of the family has a get together planned that evening, starting around 5. It's a birthday celebration for his grandpa.
My problem is husband wants to cut things off at about 6 so we can go hang out with family. Normally I wouldn't mind, but this is the first night we'll be out in almost a year. We can see family any time, but a night out like this probably won't come by again for a good while. 
I haven't actually said anything, but it's really bothering me. Like why bother to go at all if we're not going to stay more than an hour and a half?
I don't know if I'm being a bit bratty, or if I'm right to feel a little upset.

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You can see family sure but how long is gramps gunna be having birthdays?
Maybe go before 4.30 so you can still go out.

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I get you point. I'd be irrated too. Just talk to him and explain it see where it goes. Go see grandpa in the next few days and cook him dinner or something the grandpa will understand.

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Family is Important but if their thing starts at 5 I’m sure it will still be going on around 7 if you go than and stay at your dinner for a couple hours compromise is key

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Talk to him about it. Don’t be confrontational or anything. Maybe something like “We don’t get to go out very often, and I was really looking forward to this nice dinner, so I’m kind of bummed that you want to leave early. Could we maybe stay a bit longer or go see your grandpa the next day or something?” Maybe suggest setting up reservations for a nice date a different day, or even a reserved “date night” once a month, every other month, whatever you guys could manage. Make sure he understands that you care about his family and that you do want to go see grandpa though because I feel like he might misinterpret it as you not caring.

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If you made your plans before they told you guys about their plans, there's not even a question, you should definitely send your regrets & go see grandpa another day.

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I think it was a shitty coincidence. Maybe ask him to go see family first then go out somewhere so you can stay longer

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communicate !!! let him know. tell him how you feel but also let him know that you are respectful that there is a celebration for the grandpa. like the comment before me said, Maybe plan something special with him for the 3 of you to do?

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Understandable, maybe make a grandpa date the next day. Not everyone goes to every single event

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I think going to dinner, having your quality time together, then stopping by Gramps party is a fine compromise. As another poster mentioned, you can see family whenever sure but you never know how long you've got your elderly family members around to visit.

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