In the closet

Is it just me or doesn't it seem like for some reason bi girls are the most in the closet still out of all sexual orientations out there these days. I try to be as open about it as I can. I'm certainly not ashamed at all and I don't care who knows but it's not like there's a way to advertise it that I'm aware of. I have a hard time telling if a girl is into me in a romantic or sexual way or just nice and interested in being friends when we meet. And of course I'm a little scared to read it wrong and make a move and be rejected or worse offend them or something. It's happened before of course. I mean I've had a few girls over the years just walk up and kiss me at a bar or even in the ladies room but then they disappear with no contact info and leave me wondering if it was a drunken dare or a real attraction. Even some girls that are married or have boyfriends sometimes feels like they are hitting on me but I can't quite tell.

Part of it is probably that in the small town where I grew up girls were not nice to other girls unless you were already friends. It's like they all hated you and thought you were going to steal their man or something. So when I moved to the city and girls were actually nice it was an adjustment for sure.

Don't get me wrong I've gone home with girls and even dated a girl for a while. Even just started seeing a new girl now after my last boyfriend didn't work out. Not serious yet but so far fun. I'm 32 now and even with some experience the last ten years I still feel like I just can't tell if a girl is into it or not most of the time.

Anyone have any hints or tips or ways to make it easier to tell?