Am I out of order? Or is he?

Question

Im pregnant. 
My boyfriend was furious when he found out even though we had been having unprotected sex. 
He wanted me to get an abortion and I refused. 
This has lead us to argue every single day since we found out last week. 
He says he still wants to be with me but has been acting spiteful and nasty towards me even saying that he loves me less because of my choice and that he feels betrayed. He really does not want the baby and has no feelings towards it at all. 
He realises I am keeping the baby, but if he can't talk to me about it now, will he ever? He has been behaving in ways he knows I wouldn't usually tolerate but because of this news thinks it's acceptable. 
 We live with his parents at the moment, but housing is being sorted for us. 
Do I do this alone? Or do I stay with him knowing he will resent his own child?

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don't put your baby through that. there can be so many consequences in the end.

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Do it alone. For one, he does NOT love you. If he did, he wouldn’t be acting hateful with you just because he doesn’t agree with your decision; especially when he has NO right to tell you whether to keep the baby or not.
Don’t put your child thru that.

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Why would you stay with someone who had made it clear that he doesn’t want a baby? He’ll just end up resenting you and the baby anyway. You should walk away.

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No there is absolutely no reason to be hateful and nasty toward you. You can be shocked or initially upset of course we're all human. But seriously? what did he think would happen if you had sex unprotected? If he's acting like this now. I'm not sold he'll be a mature partner or quality father when the time comes. I would leave and if by some miracle happens and he changed his tune you can reevaluate then.

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Do it alone. What if when the baby comes he hurts it? Then what?

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You should tel him this “ I’m keeping this baby regardless of how you feel if you don’t want to be in the child’s life that’s fine but you’ll definitely be paying child support. You have until the baby is born to decide what you want but just know that decision is final. There won’t be any bouncing in and out this baby’s life. Let me know when you figure it out until then I’m gone.”

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What does he think the consequences of unprotected sex is?? Unless he didn't know u were unprotected it was just as much HIS choice as it was yours . He needs to grow up and face responsibility. U play u pay

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I don't think it's fair to assume that bc he's acting like this now, he will do so after the baby is born. Some men, even women take a while to adjust to the unexpected news of parenting. With that being said, I am by no means suggesting you stay in this toxic environment. He knew when he was sexing you unprotected that it was a possibility of pregnancy. It is not fair to you or your baby to stay around toxicity and ignorance. You made your choice already - now is the time to follow through.

Am I out of order? Or is he?

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