Am I the only one who gets comments like this?

I’m white and my boyfriend is Latino. And the other day I was talking to one of my friends at her work (she is Jamaican, btw) and something came up in the conversation about my boyfriend being from the DR, and one of my friend’s co-workers who is also Jamaican jumped into our conversation and told me to “stop fetishizing men of color” and that I must have “white guilt” and that’s why I am dating a non-white man and literally just jumped all over me for no reason that I could see. (I was telling my friend about how my bf is planning to take me to the Caribbean since he is from there, btw)

My past ex was Cuban and I have gotten comments like this before; always from other women and they have told me everything from “go back to white boys” to that I fetishize Hispanic guys (which I don’t btw, it’s pure coincidence and I have dated white guys before - I just live in a part of the country where there are a lot of Hispanic/Latino people), and that I must hate myself for dating outside my race. I expected hate from other people when I started dating interracially, but I honestly expected it to mostly be from racist white people, not this. 🙄

My boyfriend is my best friend in the world and I would still love him no matter what color his skin was. However I do find him physically attractive but that doesn’t mean i fetishize his race.

I see non white girls with white men and I don’t accuse them of “fetishizing” white guys...when did having a preference become a fetish??

Has anybody else experienced stuff like this or is it just me having bad luck? What have people said to you?