I met my bf 2 years ago. I was just getting out of a long relationship. Me and my best friend wanted to have some girl time. So we got super cute and decided to go out. We went out to a new club that the whole city was talking about. I waked in a guy grabbed my arm asked for my numbe I looked at him very cute but didn’t seem like my type so I smiled pulled my arm and walked away. To get back to our section I had to walk that way again and yes he grabbed my arm again with a big smile, im a softy he was persistent that always gets me. He wasn’t being disrespectful actually he was super sweet. I decided to give him my number. Even though I already judged who he was in my mind, I figured let’s not judge a book by its cover. We spoke that night on my way home and we talked for weeks. We went on a day and he was very sweet and cuter than I could remember. I just thought he was a local no good type of guy. He proved me wrong. He did not smoke, he had a good job, actually two! One kid but I could deal with that at my age do guys not even have kids anymore??? I’m 29. Back to the point he was a overall good guy. We started dating and things were a lil rocky on my end, my ex went crazy. So we took things slow just to kill my ex’s vibe. Then last year we decided to move in together. It was perfect, or so I thought. He actually was a smoker hid it from me, now that we lived together he didn’t care if I knew or not smoked constantly around me, he still works but quit a job, he isn’t as motivated as I thought he was. Things are just changing. I asked him what he lived about me. His answers!!!! I’m smart, I don’t have any kids, i have a career and I’m in school building a better one, that my credit score is great. ???? This was like a bullet to my heart yes all those things are true but that’s why you love me??? He has just a job not a career, he does have a kid, his credit score is not great, yes he’s smart but he dumbs hisself down A LOT! If those are the reasons to love someone then I wouldn’t love him at all. I’m stuck because I love this man. However the qualities I loved him for are now no more. I’m not sure how I should feel?!? Sorry just needed to vent and take some advice.

Thank you