hook up buddy

Why is it that if I woman has a hookup buddy people automatically assume she has no self respect? I just got divorced this year and people on here are saying I don’t respect myself bc I have a hookup buddy. We both just got out of a relationship and neither of us wants to be in one again yet. I respect myself and this type of relationship is what’s best for me at the moment. I don’t get why I can’t respect myself and do this in their eyes. So annoying.