When you want to strangle the WIC Lady.

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So maybe it’s because I’m a first time mom, or maybe it’s because it’s not the WIC lady’s fucking business but I could have killed her. 
So I am over halfway through with my pregnancy. And honestly I didn’t want to end up dealing with welfare at all. I’m on Medicaid so my providers recommended WIC. I am pretty lax when it comes to how much attention I pay to the stupid pamphlets they hand to me on our meetings. So anyway.
I went in for my second appointment, the lady talked to me about all the little things she’s legally obligated to talk to me about and then asked about my daughters father, okay correction she asked if I filled the papers for child support from my daughters father. I told her that he’s my best friend, we understand we are having a child and have worked out an agreement without the courts involvement, we both can actually be adults. She asked again later about his involvement like I hadn’t already told her I had this covered. Why? Because o have a mental illness and she was so surprised that my daughters father would be in her life. She then of course turned into the Well is your baby safe with you not being on meds? Honestly my baby is safer with me off meds while she grows inside me, but once she’s born what will I do? Luckily I like others with mental illness tend to carry my support system with me. It is stated on my paperwork that I live with my mother. She also was there to reassure the lady that yes I have a mental illness, yes my daughter is safe with me and my mother, and to point out again the child’s father. Whom she obviously forgot existed? Like maybe this is fucked up, and I understand not all baby daddy’s are like him. But the reason I don’t need to be pressured into trying to get child support off of my baby daddy. Is because we both are going to take care of her, and money is not how I want him to do that. If forcing me to ask for child support would ruin my friendship with my baby Daddy and make him not want to be around his child (impossible, but let’s assume here) then wouldn’t that be worse? He will have her 4 days a week, he will pay for all school stuff and lives down the street. So no I don’t need the court to tell us how to be parents, we figured that out ourselves. And on the mental illness note, she’s not a doctor. I have 2 psych doctors and a bunch of M.Ds in different fields, they are all psyched I’m having a baby. They think it’s amazing. It will be hard and I have to be careful, but they don’t believe I am a danger to anyone. I wish she had asked more about it instead of jumping to is my baby safe. And I’d like to think she would rather the father and I work as a team then go to court over something we don’t need a judge

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she needs to mind her own. honestly the WIC ladies are a group unlike any other. LOL. half the time they're great and supportive and then other times you're like REALLY?!?! they are the least qualified to give you any kind of advice, in my opinion.

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If you are on Medicaid the state will automatically go after the Dad for support whether you want them to or not. They want to recoup some of the money for medical for you and your baby.  I've been there. So just be prepared for that :-/

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I was on Medicaid and needed to update my info cause I quit my job to move out of state to be with my babies father (now husband) but couldn't say I moved state, because I'd have to cancel and reapply in the new state, and I would lose my high risk doctors which I needed. 
So I said we were waiting to move in together after the baby is born because he lives in a state over..
She got very huffy and told me i needed to apply for child support... then insisted since I'm only able to afford Medicaid I clearly have no support from the father and told me that I HAD TO GO AFTER HIM. 
Bitch what? Fuck off. 🙄

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I used to have Medicaid and my sons father and I don't legally share the same address and they took away my insurance because I wouldn't file against him for child support.

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It's ok the ppl at the Wic offices where I live are so rude . They act like u are the scum of the earth for getting wic ! What they don't know is  my husband tore all his ligaments on his ankle he gets very little of his check being on short term disability. I was pregnant and worked my tail off to pay the bills . There just wasn't anything left for food. I'm no lazy slob like they act . I get up dress up and go to every appointment on time . I don't take advantage of the system . I won't apply for food stamps ( too much pride ) at least wic u are only allowed healthy choices not junk like I see most ppl with food stamps buying . I am not a beggar Or abusing this help . It's a privilege not a right . So thanks wic odfice ppl for making me feel two inches tall every appointment I go to . It annoys me seeing women in pjs and messy matted hair in the office . I just wish ppl wouldn't lump us all in the same category. I'm no bum working 60 hrs a week while pregnant with an injured husband . Remember some of us are trying our best .