am i over reacting? honest answers please

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so i have been dating this man for about a year now and he has 3 children from a past relationship. him and his children's mother broke up 3 months prior to us dating so i have started to wonder am i the rebound. the reasons that i wonder this are because in this whole year of dating him i have never came in contact with his children wheras he has met mine of course. everytime he spends time with his children it is always with his ex around and i am not allowed at all to meet his ex or their children. also he texts her frequently but he ALWAYS deletes every message they have together. well today i walked out of the room and came back and as i was sitting down beaide him i heard his phone ding with a text message. so i jokingly ask "bae who texted us?" and he immediately looks uncomfortable and acts like he didnt wanna check his phone but i keep staring at it until he does and i see a message from his ex saying " have a great day the kids and i love you" then i look at him and he has a guilty look on his face and replies with "thanks" and then he says nothing to me and walked out and left and has been texting me for the past 6 hours asking me if i love him and repeatedly telling me he loves me but i have not reaponded because i don't know what to say.

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If it sounds like a fish, looks and acts like one then it probably is. He sounds secretive and I wouldn’t trust him.

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It sounds like he's cheating on her with you, sorry🙁

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you're not overreacting at all, but you do need to talk to him about it. he's deleting the texts for a reason then that one comes up? nah, somethings going on

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Looks like he could still be having sex with her. And you caught him with that text. And he's deleting messages ?? He is definitely hiding something . And what do you mean "not allowed" to meet them?? Do they know about you in the first place ? After a year, its well over due hun.

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In my opinion, you are undereacting. Leave him.