Hi ladies, I had a Paragard IUD in place for about three years when I found out that I was pregnant. At this point, they removed the IUD and monitored my HCG levels over the next few days and surprise! The numbers suggested a viable pregnancy! I was shocked but so happy. I didn’t think I wanted a third child but it felt like divine intervention and the perfect timing.

Fast forward a month and after having it falsely diagnosed as a miscarriage, I ended up in the ER with a ruptured tubal pregnancy. I had the entire tube removed and physically I am back to normal.

My husband doesn’t want to TTC (I’m sorry if this is the wrong group to post in for this) and I am heartbroken.

I feel CHEATED. To be pregnant and end up losing the baby and going through that trauma only to hear that this is the end of the story for us. It feels to me like we are meant to have a third and this was all a sign. He doesn’t see it as such.

Currently we are using the pull out method because I don’t react well hormones and I’m allergic to latex. That said, he is in control of his body and has never ever pulled out “too late” in the 7 years we have been married. I really don’t think we will have a surprise pregnancy from pulling out.

How do I get past this? I want to be pregnant again so bad that I chalk every ache and pain and cramp or sore boob up to “maybe I’m pregnant” and it’s frustrating and depressing. The last thing I want is to badger my husband into reluctantly getting me pregnant again.