So here is the back story, when me and my husband first started dating he informed me that he might be the father of another woman’s baby but that she did not know if it was his or not. Then a few weeks later she texts him and lets him know that she had a miscarriage and then abruptly blocks him on Facebook and his phone. A few months go by and she suddenly messages him saying that she needs to talk to him but then blocks him right away. So of course I get curious and I check out her Facebook, well come to find out she didn’t have a miscarriage and she actually had this baby. So we contact her and my husband asks her if the baby is his and she tells him no that she had a dna test done and the other man she was with was the father. When my husband asks to see the dna results she refuses to show him and then instantly blocks him again. Well now it’s been 2 years since then and we have gotten married and started our own family. Well today she messaged him and told him that she lied about having a dna test done back when her child was born but that she had one done this past month and it turns out that the man she believed was the father is not. So the only other person who could be the father is my husband. I’m not sure how to feel about this. She states that she does not want anything from him but that she just wanted him to know the truth.

I know my husband will want to get his dna tested since she has lied so much about this. But if it turns out that he is the father I know he will want to be apart of her child’s life. I’m not sure how I feel. I don’t want to keep him from being apart of his child’s life but I am also scared that since he is not with her 24/7 like he is with our son then he will want to buy her love and spoil her and do more things with her than he will want to do with our kids. I am also pissed that she didn’t tell him before we got married and started a family of our own. I feel like she just contacted him right after we get married because she is mad that he didn’t choose her.

I don’t know 😭😭😭 I’m having all kinds of feelings but my husband can’t relate to it because he is not a woman looking at the situation. I am hurt. I am mad. I am jealous.

Do any of you have any type of advise on how to go about dealing with all of this?