Some advice needed please! Very long post-

Ever since my wedding 14 months ago I have had nothing but grief from my husbands family!

His dad and step mum rang him the day after our wedding saying I’d ruined their family and I was a vile human - We didn’t invite my husbands step brother to the wedding as about 10 years ago he spat at me (they’ve only been step brothers for 4 years not close) they were aware 8 months before the wedding he wasn’t invited

The abuse continued endless phone calls telling me I’d ruined their family- even the day we flew for our honeymoon I got a message saying how horrid I am

I for my sins apologised and started going to family events which I was ignored at then would get a phone call a week later stating once again how vile I am

After 5 months of abuse I decided not to have anything to do with my in laws but encouraged my husband to have a relationship with them so he wouldn’t resent me

A week before our fertility appointment (about 5 months after me having nothing to do with them ) my husband says they want me back in their lives - very strange timing! I didn’t want to go and after numerous arguments with my husband decided to go for him all they wanted to know was what was wrong with me and why I couldn’t get pregnant whilst saying not everyone I supposed to have children!

Meanwhile my husbands sister has also decided she hates me due to - me not buying her son a present at my wedding, not paying for him to have a meal out our wedding (he was 9 months old and it was £100 a head!) she also has told her daughter I hurt and my husband and beat him up (not true)

My husbands mum has now said we have to go to his sisters for xmas (I DO NOT want to go ) i have said to my husband I don’t. Want to go as am starting clomid this month and don’t need the stress of being ostracised - he didn’t understand this at first but now does I have asked him to ring his sister (they haven’t spoken for about 4 months) to see if we can sort it but I really don’t want to as the things they have have said have broken me he is now refusing to ring his sister when I’m once again putting myself out there for him!?

Sorry for the essay but I need advice that won’t damage my husbands and my relationship but also doesn’t cause me unnecessary stress

Thanks xx