Be her daughters god parents. She wants it in her will that if something were to happen to her, my husband and I take care of her daughter.

I dont know what to say. We don’t want children of our own, and honestly I disagree with 95% of her parenting tactics and beliefs. I’m not sure I want to raise her daughter, especially if something happens when she is a teen. I dont know. I guess I sound selfish but I don’t want to commit to something now and regret it later.

We’re the only people she knows that’s financially stable and capable of raising a child. Her other option are my parents but she doesn’t want them to have to start over with raising kids.

I mean, obviously if something happened and it was between us and the child going to foster care we would take her in. It’s just scary to consider I guess.

What would you say?

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Okay, so for those ladies who think I’m “so bad” because I don’t want children- it doesn’t make me an asshole. I’ve helped raise many of my cousins due to no parental involvement, I’m a teacher so I see all kinds of kids struggling due to poor parenting. I love them, I encourage them, I do everything I can for the kids in my life. I love my niece and made sure she had Christmas presents and a birthday party even though my sister couldn’t afford any of it. I celebrate birthdays once a month for my kids because some of them otherwise wouldn’t have anything. I buy my students personal hygiene products, food, clothes, etc.

I love my niece and I already said I’d take her before letting her go into the system. The thought of raising a kid myself still terrifies me, though.

What’s SELFISH is to agree to something without thinking of the reality of the situation. Truly considering all possibilities. Thank god my sister, even with her own mental disabilities, can appreciate the fact that I’m taking this decision VERY seriously. You really want someone to just immediate let say yes to raising your kids without fully considering it?