Why do people- usually men- feel the need to comment on my body. You aren’t my boyfriend. You aren’t family. And even if you were that doesn’t give you the right to open your mouth and judge me. I don’t have kids. I don’t want kids. I’m not pregnant. I am drinking a mimosa during an all you can eat brunch at your restaurant. If I was paying for the meal, i might have just walked out. I’m tempted to write a bad review. I’m tempted to burn this brand new dress that I have gotten so many complements on. I have fat. I have belly fat. I’ve read op ed pieces that said “they are just trying to share your joy 😄😄😄”. Okay well, get to know me first. I’ll fucking tell you if I’m pregnant if i get to know you. Don’t just assume shit. A part of me wants to get over it. A part of me is still hurting. And when I told him I wasn’t pregnant he acted like he didn’t believe me. I was going to get some tasty roast beef with the squash and Brussels sprouts that I just put on my plate. Instead, i felt so self conscious that I just grabbed a bunch of carrots instead. Fuck. I’m really hurting about it. I told my boyfriend and he was like that sucks and you’re beautiful. But it still hurts. Fuck.

Clearly, you can see that I’m a whale. Fat. Not growing a person. Fuck.

Update: I want to thank all of the beautiful women who responded. After sleeping on it, I’m still a little embarrassed about it, but not mortified. I def don’t want to ruin this poor guys life. I just hope that he doesn’t just open his mouth and make comments before getting to know someone. I work in the service industry (health care) too, but I have more decorum, and never make the mistake of asking a woman if she pregnant, except when I’m taking pt’s history. You just don’t assume shit. I have had an eating disorder in the past. I have pcos. I have been heavy my whole life, but I’m monitored by a doctor to make sure I’m not showing signs of diabetes or heart disease. I’m healthy, just heavy. I love hiking, and since moving to the city with Matt, I’ve been walking more, including walking to the gym. I want us both to be happy and healthy.