I am now 10 weeks pregnant. A close friend of mine who is actually my 2 year olds day care provider was pregnant along with me. We actually had the same due date. We have had this bond bc we have been going thru symptom spotting and the joys of early pregnancy together. When I was 6 weeks I had a scare. I started to have brown spotting that was very minimal and only when I wiped. I even told her about it bc we were pregnant at the same time... same amount of weeks! So told me not to worry it's all normal. After 2 weeks I went to hospital for more bleeding and was so scared it was a miscarriage. Turns out I had a subchorionic hemmorhage.. I wento. Bed rest for a few weeks and have had no more episodes. A few days ago she asked me how long my brown spotting lasted ... apparently she started having it. She has 4 other healthy children and had nothing like this with any of the others. It lasted for a few days and then yesterday I picked up my daughter from her house ( the day care ) and she was crying saying she was bleeding and going to the hospital. I waited for her to text me all night. I got the text at 7:30 which read "I lost the baby." I'm devastated for her. My heart is breaking and I cried for most of the night. Ob Updike she couldn't watch my daughter today because she needed time. I told her tKe as much as possible. But aside from the immense sadness I feel, I feel such guilt. We had the same exact due date. She is going to now see me every day when I drop my girl off that I'm growing and getting bigger. What about when my new baby is born ... when hers should have been. I'm worried about our relationship. I'm worried about her. I don't mean to sound selfish about how she will feel towards me. I genuinely love her. She is now a friend and my daughter loves her like a second mom. I'm just so heart broken.. and sick over this. I couldn't sleep all might bc of the guilt and my stomach is a mess. Please give me some insight. I don't know what to do or what's going to happen. Am I going to be the bad guy?