Mom problems 🙄

My mother has had some serious arthritis related health problems over the last few years. She’s had many surgeries, including two hip replacements. About two weeks ago, she had surgery in her neck for some spinal problems. My mother is young, not even 50. This has all been very hard on her. She should be active and working, not on disability and in chronic pain. She is also incredibly stubborn and pushes too far, doing more than her body is ready for.

So, she had this neck surgery a little over two weeks ago. One of the provisions was not to lift anything more than 15 pounds for two weeks. That includes my chunky 9 month old daughter. We’re past that, but now she is insisting on watching my daughter next week. Addie is very mobile and a lot of work right now, and I honestly don’t think my mom is well enough to take of her yet. I think she got jealous when I said my MIL is babysitting while I go to an appointment this week 🙄

What do I say to her? I’m worried anything I say will offend her. She’s so stubborn. Maybe I’ll let her babysit while I’m home and taking a nap 🤷‍♀️