Please help me, I've been with my husband for nine years. We are 28 & 30. I'm 14 weeks pregnant with our first child. On Tuesday he snuck out at 2am I woke up in time to see him leave in a taxi. I phoned he wouldn't answer. I tried a bunch of times and eventually he answered by mistake. I heard him choosing a girl and asking whether she'd been recently screened for stds. I hung up ant tried him again to beg him not to do it. He turned off his phone. I called at 4am to say he'd nipped out to a friends an was nearly home. I told him what I'd heard. He tried to lie at first and eventually broke down.

I asked him to leave and he refused. He says it meant nothing he wanted a change as we've been together a long time. He claims to love me. He wants to go to counselling. He admitted to drinking and using cocaine prior to his cheating.

I can't stop crying. I can't cope with work. I'm to ashamed to confide in friends. I feel I don't know him and I hate him now. I have told my mum she thinks I should try to work on the marriage via counselling for the baby. I think he's evil has probably done this 100s of times and could have given me an std.

I would appreciate any advice as I feel completely out of my depth