My husband and I been together for 3 years and our son (my step son) is in Kindergarten and we debated about whether to go back to TX versus stay in NE for thanksgiving bs Christmas. Well we went back and forth and I finally said “we are going back to Tx for thanksgiving since we have him” and to be petty cause we were going back and forth, he said... “no. We are not cause now I’m mad” and I said “ uh ok? Well Zoey and I will go” and he said “ okay y’all go” and my step son said “I’m going with Mommy yaya— (me)” and he shut up. Felt crushed and embarrassed and told me not to talk to him. The fact is that his son wanted to come with me (and he’s a terrific father) made me so happy!

Debate is: after going back and forth he said.. you’re not the biological mom and will never make the decision for him. He’s my son and I won’t spend the holiday without anyone and you’d take zoey (our daughter) and if he wanted to go with you; he would stay here with me cause I’m his dad”

I’m so sad that my husband expects me to treat him as my own as I’ve been for 3 years but when ultimately married or not— I would never have a say so in his life. It’s like how could you expect me to love and raise someone and never make any decisions without your permission? I’m so sad that we are fighting about this and it makes me question us too.