😑 ugh sex!!!!

OK so my fiancé and I have been together for nine years and have a five-year-old daughter. Sex is pretty good with him but it just seems like he thinks about it all the time I can’t snuggle with him without getting a Boner in the ass or him getting upset because I want to relax and just cuddle. I’m still attracted to him but sex just has it been on my mind past year and a half. I know it bothers him he has told me but I honestly think it’s a mental thing for me, I’m the only one that cooks and cleans he never does anything I get the baby up for school and I work till 3 AM in the morning don’t get home till 5 is it me or should I tell him to man up a little bit. I told him I think it would help our sex life a whole lot if he would just do a little more for me am I being greedy?