Need some advice!

This is long and has nothing to do with babies, well not really. Just looking for some support and advice!

My husband is 37, I’m 34 and we’re currently pregnant with baby #2, due 05/2018. Our first was born 03/2016.

I’m a physician and work for a major academic center in NC. My husband was a little late in figuring out he wanted to be a dentist and has now done everything to apply to dental school. He has two options here and both are an hour commute each way. One is at my place of employment, the other is an hour in the opposite direction. He didn’t get an interview to the school where I work, so this war his option is an hour in the opposite direction.

On top of that we have three large dogs and zero family here. I drive an hour each way to work, we love our home and our neighbors and it’s out of the question for me to leave my job to move to the other side of the state. The jobs are horrible, the city is terrible, and I’d be giving up a state job with all the benefits.

My husband is now thinking of giving up on his dream because he’s afraid to drive an hour each direction for school, will essentially be gone for four years, not seeing us or the new baby, and leaving us with no family, etc to help. My job can be very demanding, obviously, so it’s hard already and he’s home most evenings to help. He thinks he will need to stay at school during the week and only drive home on the weekends, which I find to be slightly anxiety producing!

I told him I’d prefer he go to school. Yes, our lives will be horribly busy, chaotic, and very demanding for 4 years, but after that, we’d be set! I know it’s going to be a lot on me, but my job is usually fairly accommodating so if I need to leave early for sick babies, etc I can.

What are your thoughts? I’m running out of ideas to tell him to convince him to try! I know he’d regret not going to dental school for the rest of his life and I don’t want that to be because of me!