I'm a first time mom needing advice on postpartum and delivery, I really want to keep my labor quiet, because we both have VERY demanding families that will be all in our faces before we even have a chance to get settled in. One of my biggest problems is going to be the ex-godmother of our child.

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Ever since we announced my pregnancy, the ex-godmother (EGM for short), has been highly demanding of us, as well as a total two-faced bitch. She demanded we allow her to keep our child when we go on our honeymoon next October (we were unable to go this year due to financial strain and work), despite the fact we already told her that my parents would be keeping the baby since they live closer to us. She has also been very rude to other people, not including my parents and my husband's parents. I tried to make peace with her by inviting her to see the baby, only for her to tell me that "She wasn't going to come to every appointment at my beck and call". That pissed me off, but I let it go.

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The final straw was at our wedding. My husband's friend just had a baby as well, coincidentally a baby girl like us. We decided to do the gender reveal at the wedding. Hubby's best friend already knew the gender, due to giving us a large amount of baby items that his daughter had outgrown. EGM was incredibly pissed we did not tell her the gender. She looked at his best friend and told him that she was the godmother and he wasn't going to be shit to the baby if she had anything to do with it.

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She is also very possessive over the baby and keeps telling my husband and I she has rights. She completely ignored the fact that we straight up told her that she had been revoked as the godmother due to her behavior. It is to the point where my husband and I do not want her having any alone time with our daughter once she is here,

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Because of how stressful she is, we want the delivery kept secret until I have had time to feed, rest, and <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.nurture">nurture</a> my newborn without her being demanding and overbearing, as well as creating a scene at the hospital. My daughter will be born in flu season, and therefore we have decided that only the grandparents (my mother in law, and my parents, as well as her only set of great-grandparents), will be the ones allowed in the hospital room the first day after delivery, or until she has had several (breast)feedings and her first round of vaccines. EGM lives with three kids [not hers] who are constantly sick, and therefore will not be allowed back until then, but we are worried about her creating a scene.

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What would you do in my situation? Is there anything I can do? Do I have a say in who can come into my room, and when? If she starts to create a scene, what can be done about it? Any advice is appreciated from this anxious, ready-to-pop momma!