in between feelings

so my man has changed a bit. of course we've both changed. but he's changed in a way i can't describe, but i know i don't like it. as far as the title, lately I've given up on just Daily housework (dishes, vacuuming, etc) bc when i did them, he always took it and ran with it, never appreciated it and never helped. he's recently noticed how bad things have gotten only bc he'll need something. i stopped doing it for the sole fact that I'm doing all this shit and not getting any type of gratitude back. ive told him this. I'm really in between on: 1) let things get worse in the house til he really sees what I've been saying or 2) let it go, do housework and just give him the cold shoulder til he gives me what i want.