Does your spouse go to sleep at the same time as you?

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My husband rarely goes to sleep at the same time as I do. I hardly get to see him during the week and I am lonely. Our evenings consist of taking care of our children (ages 1 and 7), doing my homework, and watching TV. I am lonely and I just want some time with him. He makes me feel like a nagging wife because I want him to cuddle and talk to me and he wants to play XBOX one. We are 30 and 31 and have been together for 14 years. We have a lot of history together, but I feel so lonely anymore. It's also hard because we are a military family and we don't have any friends here. I am just so lonely. Sorry for being a downer, I just need someone to talk to. Thanks guys.

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Yup I understand we’re a military family also but we don’t have any kids yet. We always go to sleep at the same time unless he’s out or something but I definitely get where you are coming from with feeling lonely and just want some attention went through it with my husband and still kinda going through it still. He called it nagging as well and he could see I was getting to my breaking point so he stepped it up a little.

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When I’m staying over we go to bed at the same time.

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We've been married for 10 years and have never gone to bed at the same time. I'm a night owl and he is usually tired by 8:30 and in bed by 9:30. We always have dinner as a family and we rarely do separate things on the weekends so that we see each other. We try to be alone for at least an hour every night. I started tucking him in for lack of a better term. I go to bed with him and we'll cuddle and talk until he falls asleep then I get back up and do whatever until I get tired.

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We get in our bed at the same time every night. Only when we are sick is it different.

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yup.

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My boyfriend and I got to bed at the same time, but he won't fall asleep until 3am. I'm usually out by 1am, at the latest, but mostly at around midnight as I am enjoying that corporate life. My boyfriend will lay on his side and play on his phone. He knows to turn down the brightness on his phone.

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I feel the same way. it was very difficult on our first year of marriage when i was lonely at night. He would stay up watching tv in the living room because of insomnia. I told him how upset it made me many times until he finally started trying. He is better at it now.

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I️ struggled with this for a few years with my SO. He is a night owl. I️ nagged him about it all the time which didn’t help anything. Eventually I️ just got over it and didn’t care. But now that he is a nurse and works long hours and has a full time job, we usually go to bed together or he comes to bed less then an hour after me. If I️ am already asleep, he will cuddle me or hold my hand. I️ wake up to it and it’s so romantic to me. But we spend a lot of time together during the week. We don’t have any kids yet (lost our first baby in June) so we have more time to spend together because of that. 
I️ can totally get where your coming from though. You def need to sit him down and explain that your feeling lonely and need some more one on one time with him. My SO honestly didn’t realize that’s how I️ was feeling until I️ straight up told him.

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I tend to be the night owl, but yes, we always go to bed together. Even if I'm not tired, I go to bed with him, and he has expectations of that nightly. Sometimes if we're arguing i guess it may be 30 mins-1 hour off...

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No bc I get off work at 11 pm and he works at 7 am

Does your spouse go to sleep at the same time as you?

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