Abortion? I need opinions pls

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So I think I may be pregnant. Me and my bf are 19 & this wasn’t planned.. Obviously this is our fault and I take part of that but my bf brought up getting an abortion.. in my heart I know I don’t want to no matter how hard it’s gona or change my life. But my bf says to think about it because he says he’s not ready and neither am I but I don’t know if I can face getting an abortion. He also says he wanted to be moved out first and all that and wanted to experience just us alone for a little while but it’s our fault we had sex without protection and I understand I wanted to do all that first too but now we can’t.. I don’t know if I should get an abortion💔
THANK YOU ladies for all your stories and opinions 😭 I will be taking a test to find out if I’m pregnant on Friday & then another one when my period is supposed to come . Today I had what I think was implantation bleeding and today was the only day I had it and my periods not due till another 6 days. So I’ll keep posted.

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If you don’t want to then don’t. No one can make you do anything. At the end of the day it’s your choice to make.

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If you think you may not want one now, you’ll hate yourself for getting one later. There are other options! If you don’t think you can parent, you can place the baby for adoption so that a family struggling with infertility can fulfill their dream and you can turn a bad situation for you into something beautiful for someone else!
Both of my parents were adopted and my mom at 53 got to meet her bio mom last week and thank her for giving her the opportunity to have a wonderful life. My mom was placed with a wonderful family and has had a great life. Five kids, 2 grandkids... her bio mom just sobbed and said she’d wondered all these years if she’d done the right thing and now she knows it was the best decision she ever made!

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Actually, find out if you’re pregnant first.

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I can’t tell you what to do or how to think, but I can tell you my story. 
I was 26 and married, we got pregnant on the first month of our marriage. I was definitely not ready nor him. I got the abortion, since I wanted to live for myself for that time. Wanted to explore more and enjoy my marriage. I’m 28 now and no regrets. We have decided to try when I’m 30 or so. So we have time to save money and also learn how to raise a kid. You have much more to explore and learn. 
I wish you all the best ❤️

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I dated a man for two weeks and broke up, found out I was pregnant and he begged me to have an abortion, I stuck to how I felt And went through with the pregnancy. He decided he wanted to be apart of our daughters life, and here we are almost 2 years later happily married and in love, and let me say the fighting was worth it. Stick to how you feel, don’t let any man make you feel bad about wanting your baby! I’m 20 btw!

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This is a personal decision that your boyfriend or any of us should not have any say in. You need to do some soul searching and figure out how you feel, this is just not something anyone can answer for you. While you are not in the best position doesn’t mean it is impossible. Good luck and I hope you are able to work this out.

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I’m 18 & I was no way in hell ready for a baby , but when you make a mistake you got to deal with the consequences. That baby is a blessing no matter what the circumstances are , for me I don’t believe in abortion and I could never abort my child. I was in a horrible situation boyfriendless , I got kicked out & 5 months later everything has worked itself out and I owe that all to God. You guys may have not planned it but you’re adults you can deal with it. It may not be ideal but it already happened , If you feel like you can’t get an abortion then don’t do it . Don’t let him pressure you because of what he thought his life was going to be like . This is a child growing inside you, a life who will one day call you mommy that you will love and protect. Truly think about your decision , don’t do what you think someone else wants you to do . Only do what you want . That’s my opinion

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Every time I️ read stories on here like this it’s always the guy who is so willing to throw abortion out there like it’s just some common easy process.. 
it’s not , this is a baby you’re talking about not trash you can just dispose of 
It’s your choice if you don’t think it’s right and something in your gut is telling you I️t isn’t than go with how you feel 
You don’t want to end up with regrets or going through something traumatic 
No one said having a baby was easy but with help from others and your mother instinct you will and can be a great mother

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1) Are you ready for a child?
2) Can you be ready in 9 months? 
3) Do you want children?
4) If you don’t want them now, would you want children later? Some women don’t get multiple shots at pregnancy.
5) Are you emotionally prepared for an abortion? It can be a very hard concept to grasp, or it can be a very easy decision. Which is it for you and why?
And 6) the most important thing to ask yourself, are you considering getting an abortion for yours and the baby’s well being? Or is someone else persuading you to believe this is the best option?
Now I’ll tell you my own personal experience and you can take from it whatever you want.
My boyfriend and I at 19yo and dating about 8 months decided we wanted to have a baby. Marriage is not a big deal to us, we know we love each other and a piece of paper or a ring won’t determine how well of parents we are. As for living together, we knew in a matter of nine months we could have a place together and by time the baby is born we’d have been together a year and a half. 
So after a lot of consideration he told me to stop taking birth control, I’m not joking, literally ASAP I was pregnant. He had just moved back into his parents house to save money when I told him I was pregnant, and we were literally SO happy. 
I told my family, they were supportive and agreed time is on our side, they had faith we would make it work and live happily ever after. 
We told his family and to my face they were taken back but said the whole “well I guess there’s nothing to do about it, we’ll support you the best we can”... as soon as I left they told him I needed to get an abortion or our relationship would never last, we would fail as parents, what were we thinking? He came to me and told me what they said and I said hell no. (His parents refused to speak to me during this time, they would yell at him what he was supposed to yell at me) they told him if I didn’t have an abortion he would be disowned from the family, his grandmother would never speak to him again, he’d never be invited to another holiday.
That’s when I started to cave. I didn’t want to bring a baby into the world and either a) has a dad but no paternal family members and would grow up knowing he or she tore the family apart. Or b) he would leave and I was so shit scared of losing him that wasn’t an option. I gave in and said I would, and then we cried for days and he saw how depressed it was making me, knowing I was killing the baby I wanted and I planned for, to please someone else. He said “nope, I’m not letting you do it, I’ll stand up to my parents” so he did, and then they came back saying more stuff about how we should be married and how were ruining so many lives. In a matter of a week I said I would get the abortion about five times, then after sobbing until my throat was raw I’d back out and beg for him to not make me. 
I don’t want this to sound like my boyfriend was forcing me. He loves me so much and he didn’t want the abortion either. We had faith in ourselves but everyone else’s lack of faith and belittling words were really getting to us and we just wanted to keep the family together and not ruin any lives. 
I went to my mom and told her “welp, I’m getting the abortion I guess” she told me that as a woman, that’s my right and that she’ll support me but that I better be doing it for me and not anyone else. She suggested my boyfriend actually talk to his grandmother and get her opinion. His grandmother is really old and we were nervous she would either not understand or she would have a heart attack and die. So he went to his aunt instead. Her and my mom are both nurses so she rehashed how it’s my right and no one else’s decision. But that she and no one else in the family would disown him and that his parents are being absurd. As soon as he heard that someone was on his side for once, it gave him all the fight he needed to tell his parents that it’s our decision and we’re keeping it. 
I’m now 22 weeks with my sweet Poppy and while I low key will never fully forgive his parents, we have a decent relationship and my boyfriend and I have never been so in love. In my case I am so glad I took my time to think about what I was doing. 
For some people, abortions really are the right choice, but if you think you might regret it, please don’t do it because I can only imagine what a world of pain I would be in if I went through with it. If you are emotionally okay to do that and that’s the best choice for the baby and yourself, you have my support, but please make the decision based on YOUR morals, YOUR outlook on your future, and what will be best for YOUR embryo. All I can push is that you don’t make a decision based on what your boyfriend wants.

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I had the exact same experience except for my bf now husband completely regreted saying I should get an abortion. And the main thing is you're never going to be ready to do something until you do it. Yes we wished the same to be moved out before anything but hey I got pregnant and what we did first was start looking for an apartment and save up for our baby because she is ours. We weren't ready to be parents at all. Yes I've babysitted my whole life so I knew what to expect but it's different having my own child and we're very happy now. with all do respect if he's telling you to get an abortion he's not worthy of you or your child and if he doesn't want any part of it it's ultimately up to you to do what's best for both you and your baby. I ended up super happy both me and my husband are very happy with our beautiful baby girl. And honestly I can say that a lot of the time I look at her it's breath taking to know that I have a beautiful baby and that she's a part of me. In my opinion I really suggest and plead don't kill this poor baby's life. it's a part of you and a part of him and if you abort then when you do want a baby it's gonna be a lot harder to get pregnant. My pregnancy was unplanned bit turned out to be one of my greatest blessings.

Abortion? I need opinions pls

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