Nerves, can't relax...can't sleep

Just found out a few days ago I'm pregnant after 7 months of trying!

This is my second child.

I'm so overjoyed but every night I get in bed I toss and turn thinking about the doctors visits and the birth.

The doctor on call who delivered my first one was horrible and rough and I felt totally violated.

On top of that, I HATE the Pap test and all the exams. I always tense up and it's so painful.

How do you keep your nerves calm? And how do you keep relaxed during those exams so they don't hurt?