How do you tell your boyfriend he doesn't please you in bed ?

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I've told him before that he doesn't please me and he was hurt got all mad n told me maybe i should leave him witch he said out of anger and pain now he ask me everytime after sex if i cum the answer is no but i keep faking it and telling him yes truth is i only really cum wen he goes down on me i jus dont know how to tell him how i feel about are sex life with making him feel less of a man but jus cant keep faking it

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Communication is key in a relationship. Just tell him nicely. Or suggest things you like in the bedroom. If you like it when he gives you oral, ask for it.

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You COMMUNICATE.

DON'T CHEAT-- horrible!

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My husband has always said 'if you fake it nothing is going to change, because we think we're doing the right things to get you off'. Be gentle when you talk to him, but definately tell him what you like and what you don't. People don't read minds, they only know what you tell them.

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Tell him. How are you going to have sex or a relationship with him if you can't talk to him about these things. Just tell him exactly what you feel. It's not to hurt him it's to help him. Tell him the things you like/do not like.

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Tell him

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Give him ideas what helps you. I tell my husband things that aren't working and what might. It's better than me lying there suffering.

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Tell him what would satisfy you. Don't just say "you don't please Me" that comes off really bitchy. Tell him exactly what you want him to do that would please you. And if you're going to cheat then just leave. Cheating is for assholes. Don't be an asshole.

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I was in the same boat with my ex. He didn't satisfy me at all!!! Never even tried to go down on me because he never did it before and wasn't kinky like that. Constantly asking if I'm cumming. Ugh it really was depressing

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If the only way you have an orgasm is when he goes down on you, then tell him. That's not a bad thing. I imagine he'd be more willing to do it more often if he knew it. And I do not suggest faking it. It's dishonest. While I'm sure you're trying to save his feelings, you should be open and communicate with him.

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If you don't want to be blunt about it "you don't please me" (which is honestly a mean way to say it), you make sure to tell him when you do like something. So imply you want him to go down on you, and then tell him how good it is. And stop faking. That's an insult to anyone. Just be honest & say "i really like it when you do Z". And over time start adding in suggestions (changing position/angle/whatever), and if something isnt working, just let him know so you guys can tweak things until they work. And if he asks if you got off but you didnt...if you still enjoyed it, let him know you didn't, but it doesn't matter because it still felt good & if he still really wants you to orgasm, suggest switching to oral.

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