Married and Living with my parents

Salam sisters. My husband and me have been married for 2 years and it’s almost a year of living with my parents until we can afford to buy a home. I’m the youngest of 4 and two oldest sibling are married with kids and my brother is also living with us while in school. I love being around my parents, it’s a blessing Alhamdulilah. The issue isn’t living with them, the issue is them trying to control a lot of my decisions. I feel like I’m 16 years old all over again with them telling me what I should do (not really advice). It’s taking a toll on my husband.. they go to him with things that need to be fixed with me or dont like. I know I’m not perfect but I am trying To be patient and peaceful but this really hurts my heart. Being the youngest means they don’t take my option or decisions seriously and I should always do what they say...Islam teaches to obey your parents, but when or how do I stand up for myself and do what I feel is best? I don’t want to hurt their feelings but it seems like no matter how I approach them it backfires. This gives me anxiety and I feel sick.

I pray that Allah will make it easier for my husband and me and for my family. I want to move out but things are complicated. Any advice on how to handle or approach this?