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Who do you even tell you’ve been raped? Is there even point if it was a long time ago?

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Oh hun :( I am so sorry that you went through this. And to answer your  question, Yes! It is important to talk to someone about it, a stranger, a friend, a therapist. I was 16 then (I know I was older than a lot of people in this group, and I was not a virgin, but it went on continuously for 2 years and I felt so helpless and trapped) now 30 and I still feel messed up from it. I waited 4 years after it happened to me. Sticky situation because it was my stepfather and my mom and him are still married. However almost everyone in my family, siblings, grandparents, husband, husband's family, and some very close friends, pretty much everyone besides my mother and father. Now I am not saying that is the way to do it. But having people who believe and support me is how I healed.

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My mother and father was the first people who knew... I was 15.. and my close friends didn’t know until a few years later..

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You can tell anyone you are comfortable with. how long ago was it?

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I forgot to say, yes, even if it was a long time ago. My rape happened 3 years ago and I did not even realize until a couple months ago because I was drugged at the time it happened. My body didn’t let me forget about it though and now I realize how not ok I was and that I still needed to heal from it.

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The first person I told was my sister, luckily I was already seeing a therapist and told the therapist the day after I told my sister. The most important thing I think is to be sure you tell somebody you can trust, a therapist is great because you don’t have to worry about your story affecting any of your personal relationships. To answer your second question, there is definitely a reason to share your story and you’ll know why once you’re ready and you do it. Having somebody to help you carry the burden is what life is all about and it will make you a stronger and healthier person. I think you’ll be surprised by the support you get if you are able to share with a girlfriend, just try to choose somebody with a big heart.

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