Okay so..

My boyfriend and I are both 19 and we have been dating for 3 years now. I love him very much but we never spend time together. I am a full time student and have a part time job. My boyfriend has a full time job and another job on the side. We have lived together for about a year now. However, I NEVER see him. He works from 10-4 Monday-Saturday at his full time job, and 5-9:30 a few days a week at his part time job. When he gets out of work, he goes straight to his friend (I will call him Jake for this post) house and stays there until 1 AM and then comes home around then. On his day off, he will spend the whole day at his Jake’s and doesn’t come home until 12-1 AM AGAIN. For the past few months, I have gotten so sick of this. We argue about it all the time, and he doesn’t care about what I say. He always says “I’m not going to start coming home when you want me to. I’m gonna stay here as late as I want. You’re not my mom.” Mind you, I have to stay up and wait for him to come home, and then wake up at 7 AM for school. The lack of sleep is affecting my grades in my 8 AM class because I’m so tired that I can’t even focus.

All of that aside, I feel like my boyfriend would much rather spend his time with Jake. I don’t feel like a priority to him. When he comes home at night, we cuddle for about an hour and he makes me rub his neck and back until he falls asleep. Also, when he’s with me he’s constantly texting Jake and his other guy friends. I’ve tried talking to him about it and tell him I feel like he doesn’t care about me he gets all angry. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but doesn’t want to stop spending so much time with his friends and more time with me. I’ve ended things between us because of it. He begged for me back and said he would change, yet he continues. I really don’t know what to do at this point. This man is my first love and I love him to death but I just don’t know.

Any advice?