How do you get ur man to finger you?

Does he do it himself? Or do u tell him? I love when my man does it but sometimes he won’t. And I’ve told him it hurts when he puts it in and I’m not wet.. when he does finger me he looks bored.. I know for sure I don’t smell.. lol I’ve put his hand on my cochi several times (lol) and he’s done it but is there anything else you’ve done to get him to do it? Thanks