Am I abusive?

Question

Am I abusive to my boyfriend for saying I wouldn’t really like it if he was still talking + seeing his ex? I feel like it’s normal for people to feel uncomfortable with their significant other talking to their ex...but maybe that’s just me. Anyhow. His ex has been ranting to me about how I’m abusive because I’m uncomfortable with her trying to talk to him all the time.

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you should talk about it with your bf instead of her. their relationship didnt work out, if they dont have kids together theres no reason for her to be around him at all and he should also see that. having her around is just going to inhibit him from moving on and stir up old feelings. she also sounds very jealous and not over him, so. i think it would be better for her as well if they dont maintain contact. if you were controlling the friends your boyfriend is allowed to have in a broader sense or going crazy every time he spoke with a woman, then this would be a problem. but shes an ex. its different. definately not abusive to want her out of the picture. she sounds like shes only going to make drama.

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This does not make you abusive... it is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do!

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no, it's not abusive. most people would feel the same. as long as you're not threatening him or anything but just saying you're not comfortable with it isn't abusive.

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a ex is a ex for a reason he is moved on with your now so why would he want her I'm his life there ex's they split for a reason is he still over her and is she still over him and eight he sounds of it seems like he is telling her stuff to make to sound abusive that's why she said what she said x

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