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Im 20 still live at home, since I go to a local college. My boyfriend is a few years old and always nags me to sleepover. I told my mom I’m sleeping over and she just started guilt tripping me, being petty, and now I feel like shit. On top of all this I’m really sick with strep. I’m currently at my boyfriends amd hate arguing with my mother, or being awkward terms with her. So I told him I’m just going to leave. I’m honestly so tired and i live 20 minutes away. At this point Idk what to do. My boyfriend and I been together five months and he super understanding but he is pissed rn! Should I just stay here ? Or should I just go back to my parents house for the night ? I love them both so much. Idk what to do, I’m considering just breaking up with my boyfriend, if I don’t spend the night tonight because I feel like he will get tired of it.
Mind you: she’s never had rules against me sleeping over at his house. She was just like do whatever you want your an adult. But now that I’m here she is being so crazy. I’ve always been the child who would do everything to please her. I’m tired of living my life to her standards but I just hate arguing so much. Plus, it isn’t fun when you have strep
My boyfriend Is just disappointed. You. Can tel he is upset but he is fine with me leaving. I just wanted to get other inputs
I ended up going home. My mom stopped being petty and my boyfriend was fine he just mostly concern since I’m sick

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A good boyfriend would understand and respect parents house their rules no matter how old you are.

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Go home. 
You still live in your parents house and unfortunately not all parents are cool with their daughters sleeping somewhere else, no matter if he's your boyfriend and they know him or not, you know sad story but is not as easy for everyone. 
You have been dating this guy for 5 months and although you might love him and everything I personally don't think it's worth creating drama and issues with your mother over this, specially if you have an overall good relationship with your mother. 
Im not doubting the love your boyfriend might have for you but sleeping over his place shouldn't be that big of a deal if he's aware that's going to create trouble for you in your house.

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Honestly, it seems like your mom is a lot like mine. I would stay over at your boyfriends, she will stop being petty.

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I would stay. You're an adult... your mom is your mom ... your bf wont be your bf for very long if you are always at her beckon call

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Go home and just breathe. I totally understand what you’re gonna through. I started dating my boyfriend at almost 19 and stared spending the night at each other’s houses probably about 5 months in too. It was really difficult and still can be now more than 2 years later😒 When it comes down to it though, you should try as best as you can to respect your mom’s wishes. You live under her roof, so you’re just better off keeping her happy, at least in my opinion. If he cares about you, he’ll understand. I think you’re probably just over thinking the whole breaking up thing maybe.. If it comes to it and he really isn’t being respectful or understanding of you respecting your mom, then maybe consider it, but don’t just give up if you guys really like each other. The first year can be really rough. Just take it slow. Everything will be okay.

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You're an adult...but if you live in your moms house still you also owe it to her to respect her wishes

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I'm on the fence. I was living with my grandparents when I started dating my now husband but rules were already in place. Any night that I left I had to be home by 11pm. It really sucked but I respected the rules.

Now, on the other hand you said she's never had any type of rules and that you always give in to her wishes. That tells me that she wants to control you and she's not ready for you to be grown up. But she has to get over that. My father was the same exact way. Never had rules but as soon as I would tell him I'm going to a friend's house after school or on the weekend of a few hours he pitched a damn fit! I had to break that cycle, so I moved in with my grandparents. I'm not telling you to do the same though, you need to talk with your mom and figure out y'alls boundaries.

And lastly, if I had strep, I wouldn't move my butt out of my bed. He would have to come see me.

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I was 20 and still living with my parents my boyfriend was 22 . He still had to ask permission to my parents if he wanted to take me somewhere. He was not allowed to sleep over and neither was I. Of course I would get mad because I was not allowed to do whatever I wanted So I moved in with my boyfriend 8 moths into the relationship and now I regret it . I should have listen to her and most importantly I should have known she was like that for my own good . She’s your mom she only wants The best for you. No one would care about you more then she will . And your boyfriend should also understand that as long as you’re still living with your parents there are still rules to followed .

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