So hard for me to lose weight.

Ugh! Ever since I stopped playing sports my junior/senior year of high school (I graduated junior year) I have put on atleast 50 pounds and it’s so hard for me to get it off. I was never really skinny considering I was tall and had a good amount of muscle mass I was about 150 in 8th grade. I’m almost positive I was around 180 during my last year of school .. but now I think I’m around 230-240 and it’s killing me trying to get this weight off. I eat pretty well .. only eating out a few times a month and almost never eat fried foods. But my weakness is bread and potatoes and I know thats what’s killing me. Idk I guess I’m feeling down on myself bc when me and my man got together I was fine and now I feel like a blob. He loves me anyways and actually prefers me to be thicker. Honestly I don’t mind my thick thighs I actually like them, I just wish I could get this stomach off and my arms thinner again. Not to mention my fave. Any ladies here with any tips for me? 😭😭