So, I met this guy last year and we didn’t connect “like that” at all. Tbh, I thought that he was boring lmao. It wasn’t until this year, that we reconnected and we hit it off instantaneously! 😭 We talked every single day for 3-4 months straight. Yes, waking up to morning texts and notifications blown up every single day for 3-4 months straight.

Unfortunately, we fell off. Long story short, this dude started stalking me. He added him and my mom and tried to set me up. He was saying all of these things that weren’t true. It wasn’t until he stopped when I spoke with his brother and told him that I was going to file a police report against him and in addition, my mother cussed him tf out! That’s when he stopped.

After that, talking every day for 3-4 months straight stopped. We still talked but it was about what happened. I wrote him a detailed letter stating my apology. I feel like he blames the entire situation on me when it isn’t entirely my fault. I gave him some time. I didn’t tell him I was gonna stop talking to him, I just did it. It was only for about 2-3 weeks. We talked and our convo was back to the way it was before in a way. We stopped talking (I just did it) again and this time it was for awhile. Idk felt like awhile for me. In all actuality, it could prob just be 3 weeks again. This was yesterday and the day before. We talked but the convo was “stale.” We talked about video games which is a passion for both of us.

Ok, have you guys ever just met someone (your now husband or long term bf/gf) and just felt like it was right? This is how it feels. I have NEVER in my life felt this way about someone. I have never connected with someone before like I do with him. So, the question is, how do you fix a connection/relationship after a fuck up? Positive comments only please. This is irrelevant, but I’m 21 (almost 22) and he’s 25. Our relationship shows in the tiny, tiny age gap in a positive way. We also balance each other out very nicely. And yes, I know it hasn’t been long that we’ve talked, but, like in another post I saw on here, you just know it’s right and it feels right with him 😪

I just wish that this never even happened ... this happened like back in July. Ive tried talking, seeing other guys and it does nothing for me. Initially, when him and I were talking , I was saving myself for him (not a virgin, just no sex) and he was fine with it. He was apparently in a state of celibacy for awhile lmao so it worked out fine. Since that happened, I still have not had sex with anyone. In total, it’s been 6 months (about to be 7) without sex. I don’t want to do it with anyone else (trust me they’ve tried and I passed). It doesn’t feel right and it still feels wrong (talking, let alone seeing or anything as little as cuddling or kissing with someone) for some reason even though we fell off. I’ve talked to other people, but I don’t connect with any of them like I do with him. I don’t want to be around any person besides him. It just sucks honestly.

What can I do? Please, any advice and stories ... this means a lot to me. I try to talk to him and it just goes nowhere like it use to be. How do I repair this with him? He said he believes me and is basically on my side in that situation we had. He doesn’t believe the stalker at all apparently. I explained to him what was true and what wasn’t. And I had plenty of evidence (screenshots) to back me up just in case. My dude talked all types of shit about the stalker dude as well, but it doesn’t make the situation any better. This guy ruined us basically and idk how I can repair this so, I need you guys detailed help, advice, and stories. Tell me what I should do and please elaborate if you can 😓 P.S.: Idk how to explain it but he has a very stern, take no shit, type of personality and he’s sorta hard to talk too. I just feel like every time we talk, I sense that he hates me and idk what to do anymore ... 💔