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So I am 16 almost 17 junior in high-school and my mom won’t let me get anything close to a thong or push-up bra. I hate that she won’t let me but we get a lone and it is very rare for us to argue. I just don’t try to push her when she says no but I really want one is it bad that I just wanna feel sexy I feel like it would make ma a little more confident. I am very shy I don’t want them for sex or anything. Just to feel bette Ron the inside. Is this bad? My mom believes that they are only for sex is that true? I don’t believe so but what do you think?    
Ps : I am a virgin and I am dating my first boyfriend it is going on 6 months but we have both agreed that we are not having sex anytime soon I have even thought about waiting till marriage and he is fine with it.

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I don't see why everyone thinks it's inappropriate to wear a pushup at that age... I honestly don't remember wearing anything other than a pushup... but, than again I grew up with a single father that didn't really have knowledge of these things and didn't care to, he just gave me the money to get what I needed. 
I can't comment on thongs, I've been going commando since I was like 14? I would get UTI's all the time and my Dr told me that my girl needed to breath and after going a few days, I just stuck to it. 1)no wedgies and it's comfortable 2) less laundry lol 
If you have your own money and want these things go get them. if you feel they make you more confident I say go for it! but do not ever do something or wear something on your body to please a boy.

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I agree with your mom.. but kudos for you for saving yourself! You have your whole adult life to experience sex.. stay a teen for as long as possible ❤️

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Things are not “for sex”. I’ve actually had many guys tell me thongs are their least favorite on girls, and that other underwear that cover more actually make your ass look better. 
I wear thongs daily, except when going to bed I will wear “regular” underwear. For me they are just more comfortable and less/no panty lines. 
I got my first pair by literally just buying them for myself at the mall with my friends when I was around your age. She eventually saw them in my laundry and was just like oh okay. She knew what kind of underwear I had on had nothing to do with whether or not I was gonna have sex. Guys are so horny at that age they’d agree to have sex if you wore grandma panties. Guys don’t care. 
Give her some time to chill and bring it up again at a later date maybe?

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i wear thongs bc they are way more comfy.

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I've never really wore push-up bras when I was younger because I found them uncomfortable and my breast size is also on the smaller side but I still can feel beautiful and sexy! If your mom lets, maybe you can try wearing brallettes or lacier bras or undies (although I don't wear too much lace myself). I honestly feel sexiest in bras that have no push-up or padding or underwire even sometimes, I think a flat chest looks really pretty and delicate but of course that could just be me 😂  Something that has made me feel sooo much more beautiful on the inside was working out and taking care of my health, no matter what your wearing on the outside, what matters more is the actual body and vessel itself. I definite recommend working out! There are so many butt exercises you can do if you'd like to plump that up and feel a little curvier and the confidence gained from that will last much longer than a piece of clothing that will rest on your body :) Also lastly, you can totally style up your tops and outfits with necklaces, halter bras and layers to feel a little more beautiful :) There are so many ways to style clothes to make you look cute and emphasize your best features and of course you can always work out to accentuate them even more!!
Here's a like to a really cute bra I like, no padding and underwire and not to pricey either for some inspo:
https://pin.it/v7wi6l73gk3zqk

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I might get a lot of judgment here but I’ve been wearing thongs since a very very young age. Definitely younger than you. I was a competitive gymnast from ages 2-17 and I think I first started wearing them at 10 (since it helped me not pick my wedgies from my leotards so as not to get points taken off). 
My first push up bra came in early  middle school because I was being bullied a lot and I thought that might make me feel better about myself. 
I’m a big advocate for self confidence and feeling great about yourself. That being said, no means no and I totally get that and would respect it. 
I don’t have much room to talk on how young is too young for that, but I would give it at least a month to bring it back up.

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Buy it with your own money if you want it so bad.

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I can see where your mom is coming from, you get a boyfriend and suddenly you want thongs and push-up bras for 'you'
Wearing sexy underwear (which just distorts your actual image)  is not a way to boost your self confidence at that age

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you should wear what you want to wear. my mom doesn't agree that I wear thongs but i do it anyway. I started to wear them for the fact that I didn't want panty lines when I wore form fitting dresses or leggings. my mom said she wouldn't buy me thongs but I bought them myself. now she stays in her Lane when it comes to what I want to wear cuz at the end of the day it's up to my comfort with myself inside and out.

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i feel the same but like i get sexy underwear w like lace and my mom doesn’t really care abt me wearing a push up bra

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