is what I'm doing the "crying it out" method?

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first and foremost, I'm not trying to do the cry it out method. maybe it works for some parents, but it's not necessarily for us, and I'm afraid it'll send the wrong message. But I do notice that when I'm trying to put my 3 month (nearly 4 months) old down to sleep, sometimes she does this very weak eehh cry. And I don't pick her up. not right away. I know she's tired and wants to sleep, and this cry is not a demand or a high pitch. just an ehh. if it goes on too long I console her, but I noticed if I pick her up it just wakes her up. is this the cry out method? is there a better way to put her to sleep? I'm trying to steer her away from nursing to sleep, since my husband can't put her to sleep like that when I'm at work. (altho don't we wish!!)

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cry it out is letting them cry themselves to sleep. I think what you're doing is teaching baby to self soothe.

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I agree with Miranda.  It sounds like you are trying to see if she'll settle on her own before you pick her up. Which, is most definitely not the cry it out method! The method is exactly what it sounds like- cry it out- until the baby gives up and goes to sleep. Keep doing you momma! You're doing great 👍👍👍

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It’s similar to the cry it out method in a way. The cry it out is for self soothing. I personally started it around 7 months with my boys and basically did the same thing. If it was a demanding cry I was right there, but if it wasn’t I’d let my boys cry for a while. The length of time was gradually increased though. It actually worked really well for us. So what you’re doing is similar, but I guess without the increasing length of time you leave them.

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I’m not a fan of crying it out but I do believe in letting them whine a little to see if they will settle. Nothing wrong with that 😊

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That’s what I did, and I don’t consider it cry it out. My son is 14 months and he still sometimes makes that noise when he’s putting himself to sleep. It seems more like it’s something my baby does to lull himself to sleep.

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rub her head from the center down to her forehead it give them a calm feeling and usually gets then mellow enough to ease right off to sleep. my baby had a bassinet with the vibrstions on it and a soft lullaby that worked wonders as well.

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I do this with my 1 year old and I don't count it as crying it out. crying it out is letting them cry so long that they just cry themselves to sleep. I call what I do the "15 minute rule", my daughter is very fussy when it comes to getting her to fall asleep. So some nights when she's obviously tired but just being fussy, I lay her in her bed, and most of the time she'll whine, but if she starts to cry, I check my phone to see what time it is, and I tell myself that after 15 minutes, if she's still crying, I'll go get her and we'll try again

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I personally don’t let my baby cry at all without trying to find the need whether it’s nurse, change diaper or just touch. Now she’s a year and I’ll watch on the monitor and if she’s still laying down and crying I’ll wait as sometimes she’s crying but still asleep and stops after a few cries or whimpers. At that age though I didn’t let her cry at all without being consoled, even if it’s just a hand on their tummy or a “ssshh” but you’re the parent.

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I don't see that as cry it out. my 2 month old has what we call the "fake" cry... he has learned if he cries I will come running but this week he started this fake cry... hes not really upset and dosent need anything and it dosent last more than a few seconds before he settles...momma knows the difference, if it were a real cry of course I would step in and do whatever was needed but it's just his way of fussing and fighting sleep and to see if I will pick him up...

is what I'm doing the "crying it out" method?

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