Hey ladies! I want to start with a quick background…I’m 18 years old and I started having sex around 16. My boyfriend is in the Marines and he’s 18 years old! When he comes home on leave, we have sex and I don’t know how to make it better. I try to learn from the internet but I’m hoping this group will help me out more than Google. Also, I have very stoic Korean parents that don’t give sex ed and I live in a conservative suburbs so high school only told me abstinence/STIs. I want to make sex for us better. I feel like I don’t know what good sex is. I want to know everything and anything! If anyone can help out…that would mean a lot! Tips, education, products, advice, answers would be 👍🏽

Okay so I want to also point this out first (I’ll try to give an update) but I went off of birth control for awhile and I kinda got back on it before my boyfriend came home for special liberty Thanksgiving. He came home for 96 hours and well I think I’ve only been on BC for 4 days but it’s just inconsistent to put it out there. We never bought condoms and just went with it. First we had sex in the shower and then a few more times afterwards during his entire leave. He doesn’t cum inside but I know there’s pre-cum. I’m just putting it out there. I understand that it’s my fault/responsibility that I should’ve been more protected if I don’t want to get pregnant. I don’t know much on how this works. *Note: I started my period the morning before he left and we had sex during the night*

Some questions:

• Should I go out and buy the day after pill as a just in case? NEED ANSWERS ON THIS STUFF FIRST SO I CAN TAKE ACTION IMMEDIATELY JUST IN CASE ‼️

• Does the day after pill work after you find it you’re pregnant? (Honestly really confused about that because shouldn’t that work after you find out? I know you take it a few days after you have unprotected sex.)

• what’s ovulation and when does it start? (Don’t want the date ofc but like time period)

Super worried, I don’t want to have kids until I’m ready to. My boyfriend’s the most amazing man as he feels that he will go along with whatever decision I make to keep or abort if their was a pregnancy. It’s such a big decision and I’m not ready. We’re just trying to get through the Marine Corps in an LDR at the moment. We are only thinking of marriage. Please don’t leave any snarky comments or backlash…I already feel selfish as it is and I need someone. It’s been super difficult without him in my life as much.

Moving on, for our sex life though. I want to learn how to have good sex. I don’t want to add toys or accessories. Just plain sex. When he’s away, I use a vibrator on my clit and watch porn to feel better. It’s like this sensation. Can’t describe much but that’s it for my personal business. I don’t like putting my fingers in my vagina and I don’t know how to feel about dildos. I don’t want to buy one. I’m open to it and I will look more into it but at this point just focusing on our sex. Every time we have sex, I feel embarrassed because I don’t provide enough natural lubricant in my vagina. We use water to try to help with lubrication. Foreplay doesn’t really help much, we kiss and make out and touch each other. I want him to eat me out but I’m also embarrassed about pubic hair down at my lady parts. I try to shave as much as I can. Should I shave? Is there any way to remove it in ways I haven’t thought of? I don’t want to use laser or bikini wax at places because I’m not willing to spend the $$$. Anyway, so yeah I kinda get wet when I’m on top riding him. Doggy style feels so good. And we’re open to try new positions because we want to spice up our sex life. Though the problem is I can’t get wet enough.

I also understand it’s trial and error and it’s something to figure out for myself but I don’t know if you would want to give personal experience or maybe try to give advice on this.

Some more questions:

• How do I cum?

• Is it the same as squirting?

• What is cumming for females?

• How do I squirt?

• How does fingering feel good? Or how do you make it feel good?

• How do you orgasm or finish (as a female)?

• Will him eating me out help?

• What lube should we buy? (I’ll try that and I’ve wanted to…I just want to know more about natural lube first)

• Is it him? Is it him just not doing his job? I’ve always thought about penis size but people say it’s not about the size but about what he can do with it.

Honestly us having sex is just him feeling good. I don’t do anything but just feel his penetration and he’s trying his best to help. He doesn’t know what to do and I don’t to ruin his sex. I need help figuring out what’s best for me.

I’ll update this if I have more questions or maybe make another post if it’s easier for you all to answer. Need as many people’s answers!! I don’t care if you have different things to say because I would like to hear different perspectives but like I said the internet does not help. I don’t look things up anymore because it’s so contradicting and so hopefully this won’t be a problem here. Thank you for your time and if you are answering anything, thanks for your help!

I’m probably going to also make a post on anal sex or I’ll update this one.

Have an amazing day wherever you live!