I shouldn’t feel bad for wanting my own biological children. UPDATE

I recently just had my first baby. I am so in love it’s not even funny.

While talking to a family member, they asked my husband and I how many children we want. Our answer was, “four at the most, we would like a big family.”

After we answered, we were told that we were, “pretty selfish for not wanting to adopt and bringing that many children into the world.”

UM EXCUSE ME. So because I want 4 biological children I’m selfish? It is not my fault that there are so many children in the system these days. I feel terrible that it’s the way it is and my husband and I have even talked about adopting a child once we are done having our own. But it doesn’t make me a bad person to want my own children before that. The process of adoption is long, expensive and stressful. So if I want to have my own children that share my blood, so fucking be it. If you have an issue with that, please feel free to adopt every child out there since you’re better than me!

*no, she has never adopted in her life and is actually ttc as we speak 🙃