Is this an orgasm? HELP ME PLEASE!

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Hi! I’ve been masturbating for six years now by hand, usually rubbing my clit, ever since I was twelve or so (I am eighteen now). I normally watch some sort of...media whilst doing so. After fifteen/twenty minutes I reach a point of excitation — at which I’ll experience a bit of throbbing, a sudden identifiable and instantaneous chemical release, and a clear-cut peak in the sensation. That threshold feels nice enough for me to have continued with this method for six years, but not good enough in any way for me to feel satisfied. I am bi but lean more towards the girl-loving side and I have never had sex.

This feeling I describe is very much localized in that one area of my body. It is a distinct physical and chemical moment, but I do not feel any sort of loss of control as most describe during orgasm.

The thing is, though, that I do not think that this is an orgasm and I have never been able to achieve orgasm. I only make it to this point each time and then things settle down and I stop because going any further action is futile.

Is this simply a ‘first checkpoint’ toward orgasm? An even more petit ‘le petit mort’ ? lol. I’ve tried going beyond and nothing works. I masturbate anywhere from one to three times a week, only using my hands because that’s what I have and the shower head has never worked for me. I am always completely in control of my body; there is no moaning or body movement besides that slight throbbing. Also, I should mention that my clit doesn’t seem very prominent; I have been thinking this might be a problem. It isn’t easily identifable and it’s pretty small.

Any input would be GREATLY appreciated.

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1) you’re proper af and the way you describe things in so articulate lol
2) I’m sure when you’re with someone who you’re so hot for and you get that I NEED YOU NOW feeling you’ll orgasm and definitely know it’s happening

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Best way to find out is to get a vibrator and put it directly on your clit and see. You will know when you have one. I have never had one until I started using a vibrator and now within 5 mins I have one. Every time.

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Describing how an orgasm feels is hard but you will know when you have one. For me it’s a sensation that builds in my clit almost like this warm sensation that then spreads to my pelvis. I then climax and I can’t describe the sensation but it’s freaking amazing. my body jerks forward involuntarily and I can feel it in my clit, pelvis and even my anus contracts when it’s a good one. It’s about 5 seconds of pure ecstasy! Wish they lasted longer.

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Your story literally is exactly like mine. Wow. Sexuality twin!

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there are different kind of orgasms u can have a orgasm by just clit stimulation which it sounds like u have. also u can have one by insertion inside your va-j which is your g spot that the kind of orgasm that takes control of your whole body making your muscles contract and shake uncontrolably. Now if you do these two together it is even better. Now last but not least you can also have an orgasm from anal insertion which i also find to be very pleasing, but to each there own. I hope this helped you a little bit.

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Describing an orgasm is so hard. To me it almost seems like maybe you’re getting there but not quite reaching it. Or maybe you’re dulling the sensation with porn. If I use my imagination and picture something I really want to do or enjoyed in the past, I have a much more intense orgasm than when I watch porn. I feel like my guilt for watching it kicks in the second I start to orgasm and that kinda kills it for me. I just can’t imagine that you’ve fully had an orgasm if you’re questioning whether or not it’s happened. I tend to have muscle spasms and kind of lose control of my body.

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that doesn't sound like what happens to me when I orgasm. I suggest exploring your body a little more. maybe invest in a vibrator, they are pretty cheap and can be bought in CVS or Walgreens now. try some new things out and hopefully you'll be left feeling satisfied.

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when you have an orgasm all the pelvic muscles in your vaginal area contract and you can feel your vagina contracting. sometimes feels like a fluttering. so that's a good biological marker to go off of

Is this an orgasm? HELP ME PLEASE!

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