Baby shower??

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So, I know with the holidays that everyone is SUPER busy, and that does mean something to me...... but no one has offered to throw me a baby shower. This is my first born and she is a rainbow/infertility baby. I know I won’t be having another baby after her, so I kind of long for the whole experience. My own sister hasn’t offered to throw me one..... my husband has 2 sisters and 2 sils but they haven’t offered either. My mom told me she doesn’t want to because she isn’t good at stuff like that.... and my best friend told me she would if she weren’t trying to plan her wedding coming up in June and if I had just planned for this pregnancy after her wedding. I’m feeling kind of upset by it because it seems that no one wants to get together to celebrate this little miracle girl. I don’t care about the presents, I just want a day of fun with girlfriends before I have her.... am I being selfish?

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I would ask your Mom once more.  
If you truly only want a day with friends just go schedule  a manicure and pedicure!  That’s completely within reason and that way you don’t look gift grabby.
I had told my husband that if nobody offered I just wouldn’t have a shower.  I don’t like when people host their own, to me it is tacky.  Your baby will be loved and celebrated for sure!  Showers are nice to haves.  If someone doesn’t offer to host there’s not much you can do in my opinion.

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Plan your own and designate someone as your "host". Baby Shower invitations usually say Hosted By:______ For:_____. Just ask your mom if you can put her name.

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Just throw your own shower, that’s what I’m doing, I’ve spent a total of about 100-150$ on a small shower for my self since I live with my husband two hours from all my family and I think it’s a fine trade off considering my travel system alone is more than 150$ and it’s already been purchased off my registry.

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I sent a group text to a couple of friends, just asking if any one was going to be planning anything.  It got the ball rolling, even if it was a little presumptuous.

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Plan your own, have it a restaurant with a private room, if you're on a budget or just don't know where to have one. That way everyone can order their own food 🤷🏽‍♀️Somewhere thats not costly & doesn't cost to reserve it. All you'll really need is decor like balloons...the restaurant should supply a table of some sort where you can put lil Nic-Nacs on like jars filled w/candy that's the color you're going for, jars filled w/cookies or pretzels, confetti, etc. & you can order a cake rather it's a sheet cake or 2 tier or cupcakes & put on the table & BAM that's it! Most of the stuff you can get from the Dollar Tree & Party City. After that you can focus on the games & mostly everyone that attends a Shower will bring a gift. Shouldn't cost you more than $100. Good luck!

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Just plan your own. That may be what I do. This is my third but my first girl, otherwise I probably wouldn’t even have one. I’m slightly offended however because in the past 2 years I’ve hosted a bridal and baby shower for my best friend and a bridal shower for my sister, yet neither have offered to throw me one. Like someone said above everyone is so busy and let’s face it just distracted by their own lives they don’t stop to think how someone else feels. Just do it yourself and you know you’ll like how it turns out. You can pick out everything and have it just like you want it 😃

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Ask your sister if she wants to. I think communicating is important. It’ll get the ball rolling.. maybe you can suggest she plan it with your sister’s in law?

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I can imagine how you’re feeling. Unfortunately in this day and age we’re all so “busy” that people often don’t make time to celebrate the important things. Definitely talk to your sister about it and just let her know it would mean a lot to you if you just had a day to celebrate your sweet little one. Maybe even suggest doing it after baby comes if you’re running out of time for before.

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I won’t tell you what to do but tell you what I did. I threw my own shower. No one really offered to throw me one though I ended up getting one by my coworkers at work. I went ahead and started planning my own shower and got some of the people in my life to help out. I got someone to cook or ordered food, I did my own decorations because I did a non conventional theme. It wasn’t about gifts for me but like you about celebrating this miracle. It turned out great even though it was really hectic for me.

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Host a shower yourself!  
That’s exactly what my husband and I did because I personally don’t like to keep any expectations from anyone. If we are capable of doing it on our  own, then why not?! 
I planned and purchased everything starting from the decor, centerpieces, food and favors. We asked one of our good friends to be the host during the event as he’s really good with MC’ing at events and it worked out perfectly for us!

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