Small vent ..

So I’m currently 26.2 weeks , my mother and my fiancé are trying to give me the baby shower of my choice and that’ll make me happiest . But I’m content with like pizza and just family and friends hanging out ( they said that’s basic 🙄 ) ... my MIL has said many many times how she wants to be involved and what not but we have all reached out to her , told her what date we have picked and two weeks ago at my family and friends ultrasound she and my mom spoke and she told us she will message us once she got home .. days passed my fiancé and our son went to a surprise party for his ( my fiancés ) grandpas 80th and she was there and said she forgot but she will message my mom tomorrow ... another week has gone passed and she has yet to speak of it . I told my fiancé it annoying that I have to constantly reach out to her to let her be involved , and it’s now at the point where I told him it’s not my job to make sure she nor anyone else on both our sides are involved now or after our daughter is here . This has been ongoing for the past 3.5 months now and it’s just old I understand she has work and church but she and her family said I need make sure we bring my daughter around so they can be involved like it’s my job to make sure they are involved when they live down the street . 😒😒😒🙄