Hey ladies I'm another one of those wives who got cheated on. Not only in my apartment but even before boot camp and marriage. But here's the kicker. They have been "together" since before boot camp and beyond. I have seen messages going back months and months of him telling her not to believe everything on the internet about us being married and such. That's just the tip of the iceberg. Also telling her to think long term and when they are going to live in Italy together and get a big house. And how he has benefits and if they got married she would too. Part of me thinks that she's his backup if we split. I really need someone to be there for me right now, my best friend cut me off basically because she was right all along and I didn't listen. So I have no one besides family. Leaving him is going to be the toughest thing I've ever done. Even his parents have told me to leave him. His parents are beyond wonderful idk what went wrong but even they have told me I deserve better. I need help planning on what to do from here so I can move on and be okay. It may take a while but it needs to be done. I have a 9mo puppy and 5mo kitten that he's going to try to take and make his mom care for but she has 2 dog and 2 cats already. Luckily my family only lives 50 minutes away but I'm so ashamed of how I treated them after I got married. Please anyone help. I'm still "with him" he doesn't know I found all of this. I need the support because I'm pretending we are together while I get my finances in order so I can escape safely