Recently I had a conversation with my bf were he brought up the question of “ why don’t u ever offer to pay when we go out !? “ to which I answered “ I used to paid for us too when we went out before our we would take turns, don’t know if u remember that”.

Then he says to me “ we both believe in equality so that’s means everyone has to pitch in, it just doesn’t mean because I’m the guy I’m expected to paid all the time” and the only thing I could say was “ okay I agree “

I don’t know how u guys will feel about this, but I don’t mind paying for stuff when we go out but it just nice to feel appreciate and taking care of. He lost his job at the begging of the year and to be quite honest he hasn’t make any efforts to get a new job or anything in that matter, he is going to school to finish his degree which I 1000000% support and a couple of months after he lost his job I lost my job too but I found a job in about 3 months, I couldn’t spend much money because what I was getting paid at my new job wasn’t enough to pay my bills so I had to keep using money that I had save to pay my stuff recently I got a new job with a better pay which allows me to save some money again and be able to pay again for my things when we go out. But I just don’t know how I feel about that question, it makes me feel like he sees me as a free loader or something like that.

I just want some advice