Updates!!!! What do I do!? My husband hates my boudoir photos I took for his XMas present

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Edit #2** So I talked to him about it again... screenshots are at the end. This is why I say, he is a great guy ladies. Yes, there are there are times when I do see some 🚩🚩 but I’m not afraid to address those things with him. We have a very open and honest relationship. This situation was just something I didn’t know how to approach. Thank you ladies so much for all of your help and advice!!! 
Edit** I added some of the pics bc like I said, I FELT beautiful in them! I still do, but the way he’s reacted still hurts me. I want him to love them and think I’m beautiful do, but if he doesn’t, that doesn’t change how I feel about them.
Ok ladies.... so my husband is in the Army and currently deployed to Afghanistan. I wanted to do something nice and different for his Christmas present. I decided to take some boudoir pictures for him. Before I did, a while back I asked him what he thought of those types of pictures, he said there was no reasoning for them, so I kind of forgot about it. One of my good friends is an amazing photographer and she started doing boudoir. I wanted to do it SO bad. I’ve gained a lot of weight since getting married and have been so unhappy with my body, and I figured this would be a confidence booster... so I did it! My husband would be happy and thankful for them once he actually saw mine right!? Wrong. I sent him the link to the pictures, over 80 of time. Maybe 100. And he yelled at me. It broke my fucking heart. I felt SO good in these pictures. In most of them I feel so beautiful and sexy. He only pointed out my flaws in them. I mean he did say that he still loved me with or without the pics but that he’s mad that I “went behind his back”. He’s mostly upset because other girls have seen them, my friend posted them to her closed, girls she knows only Facebook with my permission, and he’s so mad at me for it. I hadn’t spoken to him in over a month and when I got to I showed him and it was instantly a fight. I don’t know, I just need to vent about it. I can’t talk to my friends or Mom (my best friend) about it bc they’ll think he’s a douchebag and hate him. He’s a great guy but I don’t know I’m just so hurt.

After the screen shots he called me and apologized further. We are doing well now!

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Sure doesn’t sound like a ‘great guy’. What a dick

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Don’t you dare feel bad. Even if you wanted to take them for just you, he needs to understand that they made you feel good about yourself. A man should want his wife to feel good about herself no matter he situation. You should tell your mom and friend about what he did because like a mom and best friend they are going to give you the real. If you don’t want to tell them lemme step in and be your best friend and tell you. He was an asshole for what he did to you. A husband especially a soldier in Afghanistan should want to see his wife being sexy. Now as far as him pointy out your flaws. Sister he was pointing out his own flaws. No man has the right to tell you what is wrong with you. You are the only one that can say what’s wrong with you. Next time you talk to him you need to read his ass to the filth about how he was wrong and how he made you feel. Not talking to you for a month behind some damn pictures is not that damn serious. Grow the fuck up. I’m pretty sure you look great in them don’t let no man or woman define your self worth. You do the damn thing!!

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He is a douchebag.. I'm sorry but he shoukdnt be pointing out your flaws that's f-up.. my partner doesnt like when I wear make up and I take pictures of how ive done my make up (just started wearing it) and I feel very proud of myself nd it looks great I feel confident but he still doesnt like it. but idc I still wear it. I do it for me so I can feel good.

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I think it was more how public these photos were, I have no doubt that he loves ever bit of you. But I know my bf would fucking hate the idea I having someone (stranger or not) come in and take intimate photos of me, and then have them visible for others to see as well. Also money spent would bother him too lol. Had you had a self done shoot, had the camera on a timer, done a more personal shoot, and printed the photos for him they may have come off better.

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Whooaaahohoho

That. Is no way to treat your wife! ESPECIALLY if you felt so darn beautiful in those pictures!! He should’ve been thankful you took your time to prepare that for him tf, not point out your flaws you already though of yourself. Your flaws are something your husband should have already come to respect and love and worship even! They are definitely not something he should have pointed out and even yelled at you for! I’m sure he’s a great guy to you but WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK??

I just. I just can’t. That is so unreasonable ! You were considerate and thought of it only to be so crushed down. A fucking kick to the face. Maybe he needs to learn to appreciate you more and quit poking at your imperfections. You’re beautifully imperfect in the most perfect way and if that betch won’t see it then perhaps you just shouldn’t even do anything nice for the hoe anymore. He’s ungrateful. Unappreciative. And disgusting.

^ That is what I want you to do whenever you see him again. A real great smack to the head. Smack him upside his head and maybe that’ll knock some shit into it. You did it out of sincerity and he looked down on you. I’m just.. so mad for you.

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I think you deserve to feel free with your decisions. He's allowed to be hurt and perhaps even confused by his own feelings, but he is conveying his feelings onto you which is unfair. You should be allowed to enjoy this experience, you chose this experience.. this experience is yours to enjoy. He stole that from you by not choosing to understand his own emotions. He may be distracted since he is deployed and maybe worried by "who" saw these photos... he should still be able (or try) to take a step back and understand that you found a way to make yourself feel beautiful and that is valuable to your life.

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First of all w o w you're honestly so stunning and your figure is Ever so beautiful,, but your husband I can't say much as I don't know what he's like but just from this one story I feel like he may be too overprotective and excuse my language here but a bit of a dick. I hope things do workout though and I wish you the best of luck x

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What a DICKHEAD!! You look stunning!!! A man should never degrade you, and vice verse, your husband should build you up.

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Updatesssss

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How long have y’all been married?

Updates!!!! What do I do!? My husband hates my boudoir photos I took for his XMas present

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