Love him or leave him? Typical relationship drama

So, bear with me bc it’s a jumble of thoughts and emotions below. . . We’ve been dating almost a year and life has changed a lot since we started this journey. In the beginning I was very very clear, I didn’t just want a boyfriend. I wanted a man who would be a life partner in this crazy world with me. He’s an epic man and honestly he has been the perfect boyfriend in most ways. But the longer time goes on the more I resent being with him. My life has advanced so much this year bc I have busted major ass for it and while its okay that his hasn’t, it’s not okay with me that there has been no effort to advance his life, his health (pre diabetic and high bp) his relationship and the sex (in order of importance). All the talk about better jobs, building a life etc. I’m beginning to feel are just empty promises. Am I being played? But he is (or says he is) completely in love, his family wants us to get married and all agree I’m the best thing that has happened to him relationship-wise. Dates have stopped, sex is sooo boring (I mean REALLY lazy sex), I’ve heard the same complaints for 9 months I could repeat them word for word. So here’s the bottom line dilemma: he’s a good guy and a genuine soul but he has major character issues and our long term goals (jobs, living, kids, health, beliefs, lit everything) is not on the same page. I HATE hurting people and it is going to rip my heart open to crush his. But I’m ready to move on and he’s holding me back, is that wrong?