I am 23 and lost my baby at 9weeks 1day, and I need to vent on something that has been bothering me for so long, but on mothers day people told me because I lost my baby I am not a mother. That really pushed my buttons! Just because I lost my baby I am not a mother? Because im not almost 8months pregnant Im not a mother? Im really hurt at the fact that people think of those who miscarried or had a stillborn are not mothers and think that only if your kids are alive thats proof that you are a mother and nothing else. Does anyone else feel like that isn't fair? Or am I the only one?