I recently got on tinder because I got out of a 4 year long relationship and I want some hookups, NOT a relationship. I make that very clear from the beginning but each time the guy talks about how amazing I am and how they feel we connected. So I end it and tell them if they have feeling for me its done. Since when did so many guys want relationships and not just sex. Help! Im tired of having to be mean. I dont want to hurt anyone. How do I find just a hookup?