Public spanking

"Hitting" and "spanking" are different to me. Spanking should just be something more along the lines on startling them. I think it hurts their feelings more than anything. And if they are out and throw a tantrum I would give them one warning then it's a spanking. 

I ignore the tantrum. They usually need to work it out of their system. Spanking isn't helpful with tantrums. And publicly, it's a good way to get someone to call the cops on you. The state where I live, there is such a fine line between discipline and abuse that most parents are afraid to spank. 

If my kid was throwing a tantrum in public or in my home id spank them. They'd know better than to act like that 

I think it would depend on what the tantrum was about. I personally can't stand when parents don't do anything at all when their child is screaming in a store. But I also know I shouldn't judge because I don't know what the child is crying about or what kind of day the parent is having. If my child deserves a pop on the butt, then they'll get one..I don't care if we're in public. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine. Discipline is important in my book in raising a respectful child who understands how to act right. If they're just fussy because they're tired then there's not much you can do I guess. 

If I had a kid is ignore the tantrum or try and talk to my child about what they're doing isn't okay. Wouldn't hit my child. Ever. 

Depends on the situation. I may pop my kid in public, I may put him on his knees, I may just talk to him. It just depends on the situation. 

I'm not planning on spanking my kids ever. 

I was abused by my mother growing up and have no intention to do it to my child! There is NEVER an excuse for hitting a child in anger. When my daughter is throwing a fit I calmly and rationally speak to her and tell her a fit won't get her anything other than her being upset and she gives up and goes on with life. People who just grab their kids and smack them rather than talking to their child so that they understand what they are doing is not approved of are doing their child a disservice. That child doesn't know why they are being beaten they just learn to be afraid of their parent and also that hitting is how you get what you want.

If we are out in public and my husband and I are both there then one of us takes him to the car and makes him sit there til we are done. If I have him alone and he won't quit I ask him if he wants me to take him in the restroom and smack his butt. He usually settles it after that. If he doesn't then he will get his butt smacked and won't get anything he may have picked out. 

While I'm not opposed to spanking, in my experience, spanking a child during a tantrum just fuels the fire. The most effective way to handle a tantrum is to completely ignore it and not give the child any reaction whatsoever. If you're in public, leave if necessary. I've only spanked in public when my kids made a bad choice that put them in danger (running in front of a car, jumping off high surface, etc), which have been very rare occurrences. I was physically disciplined in public by my mom, and as a shy child, it was humiliating. I don't want to ever humiliate my own kids.