Are you weirded out by your man going to a strip club?

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I’m not sure if it’s just me but my boyfriend has been telling me about how he’s going to a strip club for his 21st birthday and I’ve been wicked uncomfortable with the thought of it. And for some reason it’s making me feel self conscious, I’m probably overthinking but man oh man ...

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Ummm, no your not. Is what I would be saying.  It's disrespectful to go somewhere like the when in a relationship... or even when not.  Why dose he want to look at other women naked when he's in a relationship with you?

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Weirded out no.... 
annoyed yes

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To me it's just like me staring at Jon Snow's perky ass, but live action. As long as he doesn't do anything inappropriate with them then I'm fine with it, same as with anyone really. I'd want to tag along too, I'm more of a perv than my boyfriend really. Talk to him about your worries and come up with some boundaries, communication is really important

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I work in a strip club, how about you go with him? So many couples come into the club together, and IF you have an open mind, you can have a real good time.

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nope. not having it. we are Muslim and he's not allowed to ogle fully dressed women, let alone strange naked ones.if you are serious with him y'all need to make your boundaries clear asap. Things like this can eat away at a relationship. try asking him if he's cool with you and your girls going to a male strip join and some dudes flapping their things at you for cash and maybe he'll think twice.

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I wouldn't be okay with it, and I know my man wouldn't be okay with me going to a male strip club. I feel like that's single people shit and I know some people don't care or have different opinions on it so it's okay as long as it works for the both of them. if it's not okay with you I would say speak up and tell him how you feel.

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That is so disrespectful! Are you guys in a open relationship?? That's the only way this should be okay.  If he doesn't care about how you feel about it then you should find a better man.

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Let me tell you my experience: 
Chaz worked in a body shop and he and another guy there all just turned 21. The older guys decided they would everyone out and celebrate. Okay cool. I’m thinking like:

He never told me they were going to be going to a strip club. He just said “going out to a bar” I found out the whole truth my mom. How? My dad worked at the same place and was upfront with my ma cause he knows better 😂 
I was calm as a cucumber. Walked in the bedroom, grabbed my shoes, answered his questions with one-answers and he knew something was wrong. He eventually ran after me and stopped me from leaving so we could talk. 
I felt completely uncomfortable and degraded with the idea of him going. I bawled thinking about him looking at other women. Not too mention he omitted the truth!

He told me he wouldn’t go. Of course through my ugly tears I said he had to now because I wasn’t going to be the bitch that ruined the party, escpecially since the party was partly for him! 
Then he told me where they were going which made me laugh my ass off! It was a very cheap strip club that was pretty known for having “ugly” strippers. Not my words but I did feel a little better.

So he went. I got over it and I spent the entire night binge watching Netflix and anxiously awaiting him to come home. He did. He was so happy to be home lol! 😂 I believe his words were, “I love you so so so much (very drunkenly)!” 
I love you too... sooo how’d it go?? ... 
“They had awful tits!” *Sees my tits under nightgown* “TITTIES I CAN TOUCH!!! pretty titties! Oh I’ve missed you!” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Then I put him/us to bed and that was that. He’s never had the desire to go again haha! 
I know some couples that like to go together sooo maybe that’s an idea? Lol

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I always felt weirded out by the idea of my boyfriend going to the strip clubs (it under 21) and he had gone multiple times...however one night we went out and I somehow managed to get into one of the strip clubs with him and it was honestly so much fun. The girls literally give zero fucks about the guys...and it made me feel so much better. If I were you I’d go with him! See if you feel the same way after you go! Make sure you have a few drinks to loosen up a bit! I promise you it was probably the best time I’ve ever had 😂

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I've been to the strip club more often than my husband has. I don't think it's alarming, especially at your age. In my experience it's been more about the social experience rather than the act of looking at half-naked men/women. Like going to the bar but without the worry of giving that hot guy you're starting at the wrong idea.

Are you weirded out by your man going to a strip club?

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