is it messed up?

Question

I really want a kid but my husband isn't 100% on board. would it be wrong for me to take OPKs and plan BD? we aren't trying nor preventing, so I mean anything could happen right??

Answer

If he’s not 100% on board then don’t do this behind his back. He could resent you and in turn not care about the baby he was forced to have and I doubt you want to feel like a single mom. This is not ok.

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It's one thing if you want to use OPKs to track and better understand your body. It's another thing entirely to plan sex around those days without him knowing what's going on. It may not be outright lying but it's still deceitful. Imagine if you weren't onboard and he was poking holes in the condoms. How would YOU feel?

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That’s really unhealthy and gross. Don’t go behind his back.

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if he isnt 100% ready, forcing the issue without him being in on the plan, can lead to resentment, towards you and/or the baby.  even if you arent trying, arent preventing, that doesnt mean he wants to start trying. and as much as you try to hide it from him, he still may notice and get upset.  i wouldnt go behind his back like that if i were in your shoes.

is it messed up?

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